The exact cause of these feelings will vary from person to person, but often they are triggered by unrealistic expectations of what the holiday season should be like. “Post-holiday blues are often the result of failing to put boundaries on demands and then feeling sad about the outcome.
Christmas cheer is a great concept, but having the Christmas blues is the realistic experience for many. A recent survey discussed in the Psychiatric Times found that 67% of those with depression report that it worsens in the festive season.
There is a lot of pressure during the Christmas season when it comes to relationships,” relationship coach Marisa T. Cohen, PhD, said and I quote,
“This pressure may force you to re-
evaluate the nature of your relationship. For example, do you feel comfortable bringing your partner home to meet close family and friends? the holidays are also one of the most popular times of the year to end a relationship.
HOW TO MANAGE CHRISTMAS SADNESS, these tips might help.
- Make plans in advance, so you know how and with whom your holidays will be spent. Uncertainty and putting off decision-making add enormous stress.
- Shop early and allow time to wrap and mail packages to avoid the shopping crunch.
- Ask for help from your family and children. Women tend to think they have to do everything, when a team effort can be more fun.
- Don’t buy things you can’t afford. Shame prevents people from being open about gift-giving when they can’t afford it.
Instead of struggling to buy a gift, let your loved ones know how much you care and would like to, but can’t afford it. That intimate moment will relieve your stress and nourish you both.
- Don’t allow perfectionism to wear you down. Remember it’s being together and goodwill that matters.
- Make time to rest and rejuvenate even amidst the pressure of getting things done. This will give you more energy.
- Spend time alone to reflect and grieve, if necessary. Pushing down feelings leads to depression. Let yourself feel. Then do something nice for yourself and socialize.
- Don’t isolate. Reach out to others who also may be lonely. If you don’t have someone to be with, volunteer to help those in need. It can be very uplifting and gratifying.
BEDE ANEKE (DECEMBER 2023)
